The P-Spot: A Hole New World
As society sheds outmoded ideas about gender, sex, and pleasure – and it’s about time! – more and more people with prostates have begun to discover the considerable power of this shy and unassuming organ.
We might not think about prostates much, except as a source of health problems both major and merely annoying. But if you’re open to giving this special gland a little gentle love, you might be rewarded with new heights of pleasure.
The prostate’s “official” purpose is secreting a fluid that makes up most of the volume of semen, since sperm cells are tiny, and they need a strong push to get where they need to go. That’s just a prostate’s day job, though. It’s also intimately connected with nerve structures throughout the pelvis, and when stimulated, it can function very much like the G-spot .
Experienced practitioners of prostate pleasure describe P-spot orgasms as bigger, more expansive, and much more of a full-body experience than penis orgasms alone. And if you’re already familiar with G-spot orgasms, you can get there using very similar techniques – but first you have to get there.
Overcoming mental blocks may be the biggest obstacle to achieving your first prostate orgasm. Being penetrated, even solo, can be an intensely vulnerable experience, especially when a lot of those old ideas about sex and gender are still hanging around in our heads – and that’s okay!
We’re all exposed to a variety of associations with when it comes to anal penetration – so if it‘s something you’re curious about, but not sure, start slow. Some folks have enjoyed using our Intimacy Suppositories as a starting point, allowing them to melt tension in the pelvis and build relaxation through the back of the body.
If it helps, getting to know and love your prostate may confer significant health benefits. Regular stimulation can reduce inflammation and improve bloodflow. And since prostate problems are usually very treatable with early detection, you’ll be more likely to identify health concerns before they become an issue, and talk about them with your doctor in more detail.
But that’s not much fun. Prostate orgasms, on the other hand, certainly are.
To get you started down the road to a transformative P-spot experience, we spoke to two of our favorite experts on erotic adventures of all kinds. Sit back, relax, and read on. (Or maybe don’t sit, but definitely relax…)
Luna is a Sex, Pleasure and Body Confidence Educator with over 10 years experience teaching sexual health and wellness workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in our lives. Luna is a self-identified craft slut; she created Peg the Patriarchy as part of her line of sex-positive and feminist t-shirts. You can easily find Luna making nipple pasties, talking about butt stuff or kinky things.
What are the main benefits of prostate massage for someone with a prostate?
All those nerve endings in the prostate have the potential for lots of pleasure benefits! Prostate pleasure can be orgasmic, but prostate massages can also serve pleasure in the form of relaxation, experiencing a new erogenous zone, a pairing to penis pleasure, and the curious excitement of trying something different. There isn’t enough research to conclusively support a link between prostate stimulation and prostate cancer prevention, but some research has shown that prostate massage can be used for diagnoses and treatment of some prostate conditions – best to speak with your doctor if that’s your case.
How can a person or couple who haven’t explored prostate play before start to incorporate this into their sexual intimacy?
If you’re exploring prostate play for the first time, you want lots of lube, lots of communication and lots of patience. The receiver can benefit from exploring anal penetration on their own first with with a finger, a buttplug, or a prostate massager toy to get a sense of their own body’s responses, sensations and pace. This can help the prostate play receiver give more feedback and direction to support their giver. Discuss prostate play before it happens in a non-sexy time, and partners can try dedicating a dedicated playdate to focus on the prostate owner’s pleasure – in and out of their butt!
What are the best prostate massage techniques for a beginner?
Try using a prostate massager toy and a long-lasting lube, like silicone. Relax, take the pressure off of orgasm, and sink into the sensations, taking breaks when you need to. The massage might make the prostate-owner feel like they have to pee, so be aware if that becomes a source of discomfort and distraction. You can start off outside of the butt by massaging the prostate externally through the perineum, and then moving to stimulating outside of the anus with massage and lubricant, and finally slipping in one finger and curling it towards their belly button. Prostate massage should be firm and consistent, not jabby or weak pressure. Sometimes a prostate massage toy is good option because the shape makes it easy to find and stimulate the prostate.
Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She appeared on the cover of Sexual Health Magazine in January 2019, along with the designation, “America’s High Priestess of Pleasure.” She recently completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson.
What would you say to someone who’s totally new to P-spot pleasure?
I would encourage a curious prostate owner to explore on their own first. Perhaps in the shower or during masturbation. If they want to get nerdy, read Dr. Charlie Glickman’s book, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure , which lays out techniques and best practices in an accessible, easy-to-digest format. Pacing, communication, breathing, and copious amounts of lube are all essential for incorporating any type of anal play into intimacy. Also, using plant allies like Foria’s suppositories can improve the experience exponentially.
What are some of the pleasure benefits of stimulating the prostate?
The potential for more intense orgasms and ejaculatory experiences is one of the main reasons people explore prostate play. Prostate stimulation can also be highly relaxing for the prostate owner, and exploring vulnerability in safe and intentional ways and releasing shame around societal taboos can feel liberating.
What are some of your favorite techniques for making friends with a prostate?
One important thing to keep in mind is that prostate stimulation can be either internal or external. Some folks are not open to receiving penetrative anal stimulation and it’s important to know that you can still enjoy prostate stimulation, even from the outside, via the perineum. Firm massaging pressure on the perineum can be highly pleasurable whether solo or partnered. You could also use a vibrating toy externally.
For those who are open to penetration, it’s important to start slow and engage in plenty of warm up with copious amounts of lube – and keep breathing. This is not a race to the prostate, it’s a slow, gradual process where it is important to listen to your body and go at the pace that feels right for you.
With either a gloved or clean and manicured finger, begin by covering the finger and the anal opening with plenty of lube. Explore how you enjoy sensations when you stroke, massage and tap the outside. When you’re ready for penetration, be patient and make sure that you’re breathing slowly and deeply every time you insert more of the finger.
The prostate can be found by pointing at the belly button, meaning if you are lying on your back the prostate is up, and if you’re laying on your stomach the prostate is down. It’s about the size of a walnut and feels a bit like the tip of your nose. It’s usually a few inches inside the body. Once you locate it, experiment with different types of touch: circles, tapping, strokes of varying lengths. Continue breathing and be with your body’s pleasure and sensations.
You may notice yourself flushing and a sensation of heat building in your body as you approach orgasm. That’s normal. Stay with it! You may also enjoy adding other types of stimulation simultaneously, like nipple play, or stroking your front genital area. Experiment and see what works best for you! If you are exploring with a partner, make sure to communicate clearly and ask for what you need. The partner being penetrated should be in full control of the pacing and direction of the stimulation.
All’s Well That Ends Well
Again, openness to any form of sexual pleasure that we might have considered taboo requires being patient and loving to ourselves. It’s essential to both body and mind to be truly comfortable with what we’re doing, and if anything feels wrong, stop!
But at the end of the day, millions of happy prostate-havers can’t be wrong. Go slow, be gentle. go crazy with the lube – and happy exploring!
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Cannabis and Sexual Ecstasy for Men
The secret to multiple male orgasms has been discovered. At the root of this multi-orgasmic pleasure is the prostate gland (the male G-spot) as well as cannabinoids, a group of chemical compounds found in cannabis that relax the mind and body, sensitize the genitals, and arouse the prostate gland.
In this step-by-step guide, Cliff Dunning details how to awaken the prostate, or P-spot, using internal massage, intention, and microdosing with cannabis in order to experience powerful multiple orgasms. He examines the importance of the prostate as a sex organ, why maintaining its good health is vital for overall wellness and longevity, the role the prostate plays in sexual satisfaction, as well as why men need regular orgasms.
Examining how cannabis can act as an aphrodisiac, the author explores its ability to increase sexual pleasure, lower inhibitions, enhance blood flow, open neural pathways, sensitize the genitals, and trigger potent orgasms through the endocannabinoid system of the human body. He investigates the cannabis strains developed to induce high states of arousal and explains how to use this plant medicine as a sexual sacrament to activate your pleasure centers and open the door to multiple orgasms. He details techniques for successfully stimulating the prostate to non-ejaculatory orgasm with internal massage, including specific recommendations for prostate massagers. He also discusses the many health benefits of multiple orgasms, including not only reproductive health but also psychological balance, personal development, and new levels of consciousness.
Offering a road map to multiple male orgasms and sexual wellness, this guide reveals the prostate and cannabis as the keys to a lifetime of sexual pleasure.
Who Is the Multiorgasmic Man?
Expressing the Full Measure of Your Sexuality
Exhaling, I began to shake uncontrollably as another spasm passed over me. But this wasn’t the end of the experience, and sensing another orgasm tickling my prostate, I released into the intense sensation with a loud groan. This was something entirely new. There was something in the cannabis that had aroused me sexuality so that I could have a number of orgasms.
–A first-time user of cannabis with a prostate massager posted on the Aneros forum
An orgasm is one of the most pleasurable sexual activities we experience, and from our youth to our senior years, men will seek this ultimate gratification through masturbation or sexual intercourse. It’s in our wiring to pursue orgasms not only because they feel good, but also because they play an essential role in sustaining optimal wellness by releasing beneficial hormones into our system. When we ejaculate, a potent cocktail of chemicals is released into the bloodstream, making us temporarily tired or sleepy. Having an orgasm also appears to be a survival mechanism designed to boost the immune system and improve circulation to the reproductive organs. So, if a single orgasm is good for us, could having more than one in a single session be even better?
Most of us grew up discovering sex through masturbation. Although this self-pleasuring act relieved the sexual tension we experienced, as we matured and began to have sexual encounters, it quickly became apparent that women were entirely different in their ability to have not just one, but waves of orgasms. Until recently, it was thought that when a man masturbates or has sexual intercourse, he is able to ejaculate and orgasm once and then is forced to wait before arousing himself again to repeat the process. Not so for women who, for hundreds of years have chronicled their sexual awakenings in numerous books and articles and described a full range of orgasmic sensations, their effects, and how they were unleashed by masturbating, sexual intercourse, or through other methods of sexual stimulation. Under the right conditions, women can reach the levels of arousal that result in not one but multiple orgasms without a rest period that last for several minutes or significantly longer, a condition very few men can duplicate. These multiorgasmic women have fascinated men for centuries, and our own inability to sustain arousal long enough to achieve more than one orgasm at a time has been a source of frustration.
The male orgasm starts with the sensations he feels in his penis. As sexual arousal continues to build, he develops an erection and will eventually ejaculate and experience the pleasure of an orgasm. But recent discoveries reveal that the penis is just one source of stimulation that leads to an orgasm. The sex organ, or in this case sex gland that triggers an orgasm, is the prostate. Located within the lower abdomen, just below the bladder and above the anal canal, the prostate gland is a small walnut-sized organ. The actions of masturbation or sexual intercourse stimulate the prostate and trigger the release of semen. During an orgasm, the prostate has a muscular spasm that pushes seminal ejaculate and sperm from the testicles into the urethra and out through the penis. This single orgasm, depending on the age of the individual, is not immediately repeatable without a recovery period.
Most of us don’t think of the prostate as a sex organ. We’re only reminded of its presence when we develop an infection like prostatitis (inflammation of the gland), have a benign or cancerous growth and must seek treatment, or when it swells in our later years, pinching the urethra and reducing the flow of urine. Doctors typically recommend antibiotics to reduce the size of the gland if the swelling is caused by an infection, and natural remedies like pumpkin seeds and saw palmetto along with diet change appear to help. In chronic conditions, surgery may offer some relief, but this is only a temporary remedy.
Over time, other therapies, including prostate massage, have moved to the top of the list. When the gland is massaged, accumulated fluid is forced into the urethra and passed out of the body when a man urinates. This “milking” procedure is done in a doctor’s office or, with instructions, at home. This therapy requires the patient to push a finger into the rectum, and with directed strokes, massage the prostate, which sits a few inches above the anal canal.
In 1997, High Island Health (HIH), a company based in Houston, Texas, began marketing a series of prostate massagers based on patents by Japanese urologist Dr. Jiro Takashima. Made of medical-grade plastic, these small hands-free massagers anchor outside the rectum, fit inside the colon, and press up against the prostate. By tightening and relaxing the PC, or pubococcygeus muscle of the pelvic floor, the device gently massages the prostate to reduce inflammation and return the prostate to its normal size. In a small percentage of cases, men reported a pleasurable side effect of this therapy: convulsive spasms of extreme pleasure capable of shaking the entire body, which in some cases lasted for hours.
As word began circulating about the coveted prostate orgasm, a handful of sex toy manufacturers released prostate stimulators in all shapes and sizes in an attempt to capture the market of sexually curious men. The most successful of these is Aneros, a spin-off from HIH, who, in 2003, rebranded their prostate massagers as sex devices for men. Thousands of curious men purchased these devices and visited the Aneros forum to support and discuss their growing awareness of their prostate and the elusive Super-O, or super orgasm, a term coined by an early Aneros experiencer.
But using the massager was not a guarantee of a multiorgasmic session. Most were left discouraged and unsatisfied with the occasional spasm or slight tingle, far from anything orgasmic. In response, manufacturers introduced electric stimulators in an attempt to batter the prostate into submission with vibration, which in most cases only served to desensitize the gland and frustrate the user who wasted his money on a useless device.
ENTER THE SEXUAL SACRAMENT
Today, thanks to the growing legalization of cannabis, men can discover how this powerful aphrodisiac alters the body’s vibratory rate, increasing sexual arousal, and–with the gentle stimulation from a prostate massager–provides the multiorgasmic experience they desire.
None of this would be possible without the chemical compound Tetrahydrocannabinol, or THC, the psychoactive stimulant found in cannabis. THC is a powerful substance that affects the body, mind, and spirit in an orchestrated event that stimulates the prostate while opening direct pathways to the brain and higher guidance, or our intuition. The chemical ingredients suspend the mind from the daily noise of our busy lives, slowing it down while relaxing the nervous system to become receptive to the body’s sensations. Early cultures understood the properties within this plant as a sexual stimulant and ingested or smoked it or applied it in a lotion to increase genital sensitivity and the intensity of their orgasms. In ancient Hindu texts, women described rubbing cannabis resin on their skin and genitals to increase sensitivity and sexual pleasure. It’s not clear if men from this period experienced heightened sensitivity, or for that matter, orgasms, from such a practice. Still, it appears that cannabis was an essential part of orgies to enhance sexuality during coitus, the act of sexual intercourse. Today, we’re just beginning to rediscover the effects of cannabis on the sex organs.
A SEXUAL RENAISSANCE FOR MEN
Now that we understand that cannabis and its benefits on human sexuality have been with us down through the ages let’s put the multiorgasmic man into perspective. Medical science has just scratched the surface in describing the orgasm and its effects on the brain and body. What is coming to light are the profound effects an orgasm has for healing, aligning the mind/brain, and connecting with our higher guidance. Also, repeating orgasm may lead to what neuroscience refers to as neuroplasticity, or a rewiring of the brain. When we do something pleasurable and repeat it successfully, we change the brain’s function in a manner that makes it easier to reproduce favorable results, in this case an orgasm.
Perhaps what’s most exciting for men’s sexuality is what I call “sexercising,” a short series of techniques that aid in triggering waves of orgasms. Outlined in this book, this method cultivates multiple prostate orgasms into easily reproduced events that, with proper recovery time, can be enjoyed throughout the lifetime of any man in fair to good health. Combining small amounts of cannabis with the light stimulation of a massager trains the brain to recognize the prostate and opens new pathways by rewiring the nervous system. For the vast majority of men, experiencing a single event with multiple orgasms now becomes a regular activity that can be enjoyed one or two times a week.
This game changer propels men to the heights of sexual pleasure that women have enjoyed since the beginning of time. Prostate orgasms represent an evolution in male sexuality and by experiencing multiorgasms at greater and greater intensity, a man can elevate the sensation of a penile ejaculation and enter a new realm of pleasure that until now did not exist. Though there are no studies on the intensity of these orgasms, I believe that with proper care and a period of recovery between sessions, regular practice can move one into experiencing orgasms that transcend “normal” states of awareness.
If ever there was a sexual revolution in the making, it’s now, as more men can begin to enjoy their full sexual awakening. Through my own research and studies of other men who have described their experiences, I’ve discovered that the benefits of these orgasms are multifaceted. Successful sessions can release pent-up emotions, anxiety, and a host of other issues we face. The experience of a multiorgasmic release is so overwhelming for most that the act, in general, is taken over by the autonomic system. As the body spasms with powerful convulsions, toxins are released, and other benefits yet to be understood are experienced. With practice, men are no longer limited to a single orgasm and can now experience intense multiorgasmic bliss with or without the presence of a partner or spouse.